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[Plus Size Mom] I Never Wanted to Lose Weight Until I Became a Mom

 Hello everyone! I'm a plus size mother and I never wanted to lose weight until I became a mom. In my very first blog post Responding to my Life, I talked about how I have been fat all my life. I never had to suffer from being ashamed of my body and in fact I was "body positive" before "body positive" was a thing. Bodies come in all shapes, sizes, and colors so to me there is not one body type that looks better than the other. Society doesn't agree.

Motherhood has been a beautiful experience. It has been unlike anything I could ever imagine. I'm a mother to an (almost) 2-year-old boy Zen. Before he came into this world I knew I wanted to spoil him with life experiences. I want to travel with him and see the world, yet airplane seats are small and very uncomfortable for me. Then I think about the simple but unforgettable experiences like taking him to the local fair or even Disney World one day, yet I haven't been able to fit on a ride since I was 13 years old. Do you see where I'm getting at? My plus size body is keeping from being the mother I want to be for Zen.
Yes, I have always accepted my body for what it is, but I have also tried a few different trendy diets and I've been known to do a free trial or two at a gym with no success. I never had a true reason to lose weight, especially since overall I'm in pretty good health.

I'm ready to embark on this journey not only Zen but for myself as well. This will be very difficult for me! It will take a lot of planning, a lifestyle change, time, and so much more. I wasn't trying to make this a "New Year, new me" journey but I do want to wait to start after the upcoming holidays.

Please don't take this as me not believing I can be plus size and a good mother for Zen. If I wasn't to lose a pound I would still make sure he lives a good life. I just can't be the mother I want to be for him, there's a difference.

This is only part one of this journey and if you're a mother and can relate please reach out to me and let's connect!  - Mother Muva



Photography: Marta Payne 
Active Wear: JcPenny

Wide-Calf Boots x The List


Trendy Wide Calf Boots
Boot season has commenced! I'm starting to see more people pulling out last seasons boots from their closet, or rocking a bomb new pair (I've done both). Being a plus size woman I'm limited to only wide-calf boots and I often get asked where I end up finding them. That and many other things fueled my fire to blog. Fashion is becoming more size inclusive with every new season that comes!
I have compiled a list of online stores where you can find your next pair of wide-calf boots. Our wide-calf boots options are just about endless!

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There you have it. Wide-Calf Boots  x  List!

You MUST tell me if you find a pair you love, please? Just comment it below.


Photography: Marta Payne 

Boots: Ashley Stewart 

Delicious "Fall " Snacks Your Toddler Will Love



I'm not sure about where you live, but here in Missouri Fall is finally here. The Summer temperatures weren't in a hurry to end this year. I can admit that I agree entirely with the rest of the world that nothing compares to a delicious "Fall" snack! So today I will be sharing my list of  "Fall" snacks for a toddler. My choices either match a fall flavor, color, or just simply delicious.
Happy Tot Organics - Love my VeggiesChickpea Staws - Sweet Potato & Rosemary. You will always find something Happy Tot in our house! They offer a wide variety of organic snacks for babies & toddlers. This is the snack that you see my son Zen eating in the pictures! Find the chickpea straws HERE 

Beech-Nut Quinoa Crispies - Vanilla  Its been a while since I have bought these for Zen but I had to make sure this made this list. My toddler loved these at first bite. The texture makes this an easy to eat snack. Plus quinoa provides excellent nutrients like protein and fiber.
Sprout Organic Crinklesz Pumpkin Carrot. Name a better duo then pumpkin and fall? I'll wait! I found this Fall toddler snack on Amazon. Crinklez is a popped veggie cracker for those little fingers to grab and enjoy. I have not gotten this for my son, but you can't go wrong with a snack like this.

Happy Tot Organics - Super Foods Apples, Sweet Potatoes, Carrots, and Cinnamon Here is another Happy Tot Fall snack. This squeezable pouch is packed with "super" nutrients for your toddler. This squeezable pouch is my sons go to choice, he absolutely loves them! 

Plum Organics Mighty Snack bars - Pumpkin Banana I'm on the hunt for these! Well not really hunting because I did find them HERE. Mighty snack bars is a baked whole grain bar with fruits and veggies. They're smaller then I expected, but still tummy satisfying. This fall flavor snack will make a for a great morning snack. 

Toddler Snacks



There they are, my choices"Fall" snacks that your toddler will love. All choices are clearly full with good stuff that will make you and your little one happy. If your looking for more homemade  "Fall" snacks try Pinterest!


Responding to my Life

The Past

I started out in this world May 2nd, 1988 in Columbia, MO. Growing up I was known to be the sweet little fat girl, always smiling, and maybe a little on the quiet side at times. I want to point out that I never was that kid that set dreams for themselves on what they were going to be when they grew up, I mean I gave an answer when I was asked but I knew I would never be that! I was provided with a good life. I lived with my mother and she never made me feel like I was going without, it wasn’t until I was older that I realized how hard she struggled to provide for my sister and I growing up. My mother was also my fashion influence. Since I was the fat little girl I had no choice to wear her grown-up clothes to school, and my mother had style so naturally, it rubbed off on to me. I just didn’t know how much it did until I got to high school & it has bloomed from there. I may not have known what I wanted to be when I grew up but I did know that I was going to be a mother one day, that was one thing that I knew I could be…


 The Present 

A few years ago is when life started to become hard for me. My known smile wasn’t as big anymore, there was no such thing as true happiness for me. November 2015 I was 21 weeks and 5 days pregnant with who was going to be my first child. We named her Titan. I had something wonderful to look forward to, motherhood. One afternoon I went in for my routine doctor’s appointment. Just as always the doctor was listening for Titan’s heartbeat, he was having a hard time finding but assured me that it happens often but thought I should head to the next building for a better ultrasound. They never found her heartbeat. I had to give birth to a stillborn baby girl. That one thing that I knew I could do got taken away from me, motherhood. Just about 4 months after that, things got far from better, I got fired from my job of 7 years. I was completely lost as a person. I didn’t start to find myself until I was given a second chance at motherhood. My son is  1 ½ & I’ve had enough of letting my doubt and fears get in my way. I now realize that I never dreamed of becoming anything because I was too afraid of it not coming true. I wasn’t understanding that I was my own competition. It's time I start to respond to my life, not sit here and wait for things to magically happen. 


The Future

Through this blog I want to grow spiritually, mentally, and financially. I will be transparent for the world and share this journey of becoming who I want to be. A year from this day I hope to be closer to becoming self-employed, collaborate/partner with businesses, and to be better then I am today. I hope to inspire mothers, African American women, plus size women. I will respond to my life.


Photography: Marta Payne - Makeup: Makeup by Maxx

Dress, Shoes & Accessories: Ashley Stewart - Toddler Moto Jacket: Gap